How many times have you heard the words ‘battle’ or ‘fight’ since you got your diagnosis?
“You’ll win this battle…”
“You’ve just gotta keep fighting...”
People mean well when they say these things. A lot of the time, they think they’re expected to say them…
What they don’t realize is these words and phrases shut down the conversation before it can really begin.
Because if you’re forced into the language of battle, how do you talk about those days you can’t get out of bed -- without it sounding like surrender?
How do you talk about your fears -- without it sounding like cowardice?
How do you talk about taking control of your treatment -- without it sounding like you’ve broken rank?
And how do you talk about new levels of insight -- without it sounding like you’re fraternising with the enemy?
Worst of all, if you internalize the narrative of war, you frame your cancer journey in a limiting way. You shut yourself off from all those aspects of your experience that can lead to deeper understanding, insight, and - ultimately - transformative change.
Here’s the good news…
You can change the narrative, in a way that gives you - and the people you love - permission to get real around cancer.
And that realness can *completely* change your experience.
There are two key problems with the battle and fight cancer narrative...
Problem #1: It forces you into a set role and puts expectations on your behavior, turning you into the ‘brave patient’ or the ‘unfortunate victim’.
In other words, you stop being you, and connecting with yourself on a deeper level and others around you becomes incredibly difficult.
The easy, honest person to person conversations you’re used to having with friends and family become awkward and overly polite. Feelings of shame, guilt and discomfort can often come into play and you may even find people start to pull away, leaving you feeling alone, isolated, and disconnected…
Which is the last thing you need when you’re living with cancer.
Problem #2: It sets cancer up as a sworn enemy -- something you should keep your distance from at all times, something you should fear, and something you should approach with the single-minded focus of defeating.
Here’s why this is a problem…
While cancer is a disease, it’s also a teacher --
*If* you’re open and ready to receiving the lessons.
If you don’t spiritually understand why you have cancer, you’re blocking yourself from some pretty powerful realizations that will help light your way forward. If you don’t pay attention to what your cancer is teaching you, how else are you paying?
And this level of self-awareness is hugely powerful...
It puts you in a position of empowerment and allows the healing process to truly begin.
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